The Grown-up Heart Within Our Children

As parents, we think we know our children. We use this knowledge to protect them, shielding them from situations that we know they do not yet have the resources to cope with, and might cause them harm.

Sometimes, though, no matter how we try, such an event will lay itself down upon the path of our child, and there is nothing we can do to protect them. And much to our surprise, we catch a glimpse of the way our child will “be” as an adult.

After the exhausting day at the pool, and the nature hike, my four boys and I rode the elevator back up to our room. The shinny brass elevator doors were irresistible to my 3-year-old. He put his hand on the elevator door. It slid open, and carried his tiny little hand all the way into the pocket chamber, and he couldn’t pull it out. There was a scream, the elevator started beeping, and I dropped to my knees to pull his arm out.

I couldn’t reach his arm, because my 11-year-old son was already there. Working, pulling, trying to free his brother. We worked together for what seemed like hours. Time stopped. Suddenly, something shifted, and the 3-year old’s hand finally popped free. I picked him up and cradled his tiny red-swollen fingers to see if they were broken. It was then, that I looked at my 11-year-old’s face. He was white as a sheet, and his lips ashen.

Someone from the hotel came with ice, and the red swollen fingers (unbroken) were soon relieved of all the red, and traces of the accident disappeared. Afterwards, my son – my 11-year-old, couldn’t understand why his foot was trembling.

I just had a glimpse into the caring, sensitive, brave, strong, big-hearted man this boy truly is. Yes, it was quite a day.

P.S. I’m still puzzled by whatever it was that shifted and enabled his hand to come free. I can only say that is was almost like a 3rd set of hands was there to release the elevator door, just enough to free his hand.

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14 comments to “The Grown-up Heart Within Our Children”
  1. Oh, I am so sorry you all had to go through this! How wonderful the outcome.

    It is disconcerting when we get the glimpse of them grown hovering in the background–or in the case of your 11yo, taking over.

    You must be so proud of him.

    You wrote this so well–I think my blood pressure went up reading it!!!

  2. This sounds like a frightening experience – just the kind of thing that sits at the back of your mind when you board an elevator.

    Your son sure sprang into action!

    It is fascinating to see them gradually developing into the person they are going to become.

  3. Oh my goodness! You must have been terrified.

    What a heart lies inside your boy. It always amazes me when I see glimpses of who my daughter will be – the good and the bad.

  4. Did you utter a prayer in that time? Did one shoot through your head?
    Don’t you just find such comfort in the fact that our children have guardian angels looking out for them, and sometimes, at the Lord’s command, reach into the natural and help us out? Well, I do, and it helps me to let them go just a little bit more than I’d like for them to.

  5. What a great big brother and son you have there! How sweet to see that he cared so much.
    And I’m glad that your 3 year old is okay.
    I see that in my oldest though … she may fight with the younger ones, but when they are hurt, it isn’t uncommon for her to get there first to comfort and help them. It is a beautiful thing to see.

  6. I’m so glad you have this story written on your blog. Think how exciting it will be to show this to his family somewhere down the road. Not only caring, sensitive, brave, strong, & big-hearted …quick thinking! I’d want him with ME if I had an emergency. I know how proud you must be of that child. I’m proud just to hear about him.

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  8. Oh my goodness…that must have been heart stopping!
    Good job to your 11 year old little ‘big’ man 🙂 can you just see what the future will bring? 4 young men with big hearts….a big part of them reflects what YOU are to them 🙂

  9. I got a bit teary over that. Isn’t in wonderful to see what marvelous creatures our children are? And a little guardian angel intervention never hurts either.

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