How To Make A Dream Come True

New Year’s Resolutions have good intentions, but are too harsh and restrictive to survive the 365-day mark. Dreams, require no willpower, are much more enticing, and naturally hold your focus throughout a year. There’s nothing quite like a well-crafted dream to help you replace bad habits with new ones. No dream is worth having unless it can come true – and most do, usually when we least expect it. Here are 13 steps to making your dreams come true.

1. This is really your decision. Everything you have in your life, good or bad, is there because of one reason – you brought it in, and you’ve kept it. It’s easy for all of us to justify blame on someone or something for what we have, but that’s not reality. For a minute, suspend judgment on yourself for bringing anything you think as bad into your life, and really relish in the realization that you do have more power than you realized. The future is all Choices and Illusions: How Did I Get Where I Am, and How Do I Get Where I Want to Be? Now, if you can create this much without even trying, how much more can you create if you set your mind to it? If you have trouble seeing this vital point, find a copy of Martha Beck’s great book, Finding Your Own North Star: Claiming the Life You Were Meant to Live.
2. Joy. You’ve noticed that the rich get richer and the poor get poorer. It’s called the The Law of Attraction. Physicists can explain this: Dancing Wu Li Masters: An Overview of the New Physics, and this works in your life too. If you say, “I just know I’m going to forget what I came here for…” you will. In Change Your Life in Seven Days: The World’s Leading Hypnotist Shows You How Paul McKenna shows you how a simple slight change in your daily attitude will, bring dramatic changes into your life – some instantaneously. Right now, you can download Paul’s free audio download that helps you retrain your brain to think in “more positive and abundant ways.” Again, Martha Beck has a fun, but seriously-packed book called, The Joy Diet: 10 Daily Practices for a Happier Life with daily practices you can easily incorporate into your life.
3. No Wishes. Eliminate these words. Hope, Wish, Will, Someday. Especially someday. These words will always keep your dream in the far off distant future, and never part of your present reality. “I hope to have” = “I have.” “Someday, I’ll go to France.” = “I went to France.” “I wish I had.” = “I have.” When you say, I wish – you are creating an opportunity for you to continue wishing – forever. As long as you say wish, you will. If you change your mind into I have, you will soon have many things you want. Louise L. Hay is the Queen of affirmations. She says you can change anything in your life, and attract anything to you, just be saying the right words. Check out her Power Thought Cards.
4. Cast your dream. There is a great book by Henriette Anne Klauser called Write It Down, Make It Happen that I adore. Start the magic by writing down your dream in concrete terms, as if it’s already happened. You will find this is awkward, and it will feel weird. You may not even know what it is, exactly, what you do want. Worse, you may believe it’s impossible, so why even bother to write down such garbage? So, pick another dream, learn to Change Your Questions, Change Your Life. Create something in identifiable, concrete terms. Not, I wish I had my dream house – I own a cobblestone house with 4000 square feet, 15 minutes from downtown and 5 bedrooms, with a master bath on the second floor. When my son’s 200 shark bites hardly sold the first day, he felt a little cold feet despair. Before he went to sleep, I told him to write ten times, “I sold 75 shark bites,” before he went to sleep. He looked at me funny – this was awkward. “It’s not true Mom.” I know it’s not true, I said – but you’re going to make it true tomorrow, and this is how you start. There was no magic in the act – but his energy of despair and defeat would definitely impact his attitude during the next day’s sales. His customers would have definitely picked up on his sour mood. As he wrote, he couldn’t help but imagine what it would feel like to actually sell 75 shark bites. It felt good! The more times he wrote it, the less time he had to think about the fact that they didn’t sell today, and the more he thought about an empty cooler chest, and kids screaming for more shark bites, because they did taste good. Once you play a scene out in your mind, your brain has a difficult time distinguishing an imagined scene from an actually scene. He went to sleep with these good thoughts, and they percolated in his dreams all night. Rather than heading off to school the next morning, worried, he felt good. The kids picked up on his energy. He sold 75 shark bites. (I breathed a sigh of relief!) The next night he wrote, “I sold out of shark bites, and people keep asking for more.” I stood behind the sales table on the playground and watched it happen the next day. Shark bites gone, kids asking for more.
5. Refine your Dream. When you see your dream in black and white print, with your own name in front of it, your dream starts to look a little too real. This will make you feel a little weird – it just won’t feel right. This is a necessary vital step in the process. When you read it out loud, the statement might make you laugh, or it might scare you. When you see those five bedrooms with your name in front of it, you might suddenly realize that’s a lot of bathrooms to clean. As the reality of your dream becomes more apparent, you may decide you don’t like certain parts. You can always attract a maid; but is that something you truly want to manage? Maybe it is. Now, is the time to refine your dream.
6. Clear the roadblocks. Whether you realize it or not, your subconscious has been very busy your entire life protecting you from your dreams. Your subconscious is very aware of all the downsides of every dream you set your little heart on, and believing it is protecting you, it stops you from making steps toward realizing your dream. How many times have you said, “I would hate to be famous like that and have all those photographers chasing me all the time.” Voila! Ironically, your subconscious, when used to your advantage, can be a very good little problem solver. Take out a sheet of paper, and write down your dream. Now, put your pen in your opposite hand, and right the “yes, but….” and let your subconscious finish the statement. You’ll be surprised to see on paper what’s been lurking around in your what’s lurking around in your mind. Then, put your pen back in your dominant hand, and answer the negative with a solution, “Yes, but….” Continue this until you get to a point where your subconscious truly has no more objections. End the exercise with writing in your dominate hand, you’re dream in a positive statement. When doubts creep up tomorrow, do this exercise again, and again, and again. Your other hand is a Powerful Tool that can help you solve many other problems — it taps the Inner Wisdom of the Right Brain.
7. Gratitude. There is secret power in gratitude. Keep yourself aware of what great things you really have already going on in your life. If you start by actually writing down, not just thinking about them, but writing down three things that you are truly grateful for, you’ll find that it’s difficult to stop. Do this everyday. The point of this exercise is to help move you to a state of joy. And once you’re there, you’ll continue to attract more good things into your life. Just remember, always, Focus on the Good Stuff.
8. Patience. There is a time delay between the creation of the dream in your mind and the actual delivery in the material world. Don’t be discouraged. It’s on it’s way, and right now, this will help you Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice. Right now, you Can’t Afford the Luxury of a Negative Thought, so keep talking and writing about your dream as if it’s here, even if it’s still on its way.
9. Keep it a Secret. Don’t tell other people your dream. First of all, they’ll laugh at you and blow your confidence. I’m not sure why, but people really hate to see other people achieve greatness. Maybe they’re afraid of being left behind, but they are very effective in taking that dream right out from under you. You’ll quietly realize they’re right, and lay the dream aside and forget about writing down the affirmations, cleaning the blocks and visualization because it will begin to look silly after all. Learn more about the rules of dream making from here: Creating Affluence: The A-to-Z Steps to a Richer Life.
10. Practice living out your dream. Right before you go to sleep, imagine that you are living out your dream. The most important detail here is to get to the point where you can actually see yourself in your dream, right down to your shoes. Shakti Gawain gives you step-by-step instructions in her book, Creative Visualization: Use the Power of Your Imagination to Create What You Want in Your Life.
11. Create space. Yes, you can Move Your Stuff, Change Your Life . If you want to bring something new into your life, create space for it on every level. Practically, this means to clean out your closet. Move your stuff, change your life. They say that old love letters from a painful breakup, even if they are stored in your attic, can affect your mood. You know they’re up there, and every time you think of them, it brings back a little heartbreak. Negative thoughts attract more negative thoughts. So get rid of anything and everything that doesn’t bring you joy. You really can’t afford a negative thought.
12. Create space inside. All transformation begins with this one simple practice – contemplation, or meditation or prayer. Just sit for ten minutes each day and think about and do absolutely nothing. There are many books and tapes available on meditation – but if you can think of this as just a simple way to flush out your mind, your path to the art of meditation will be much easier. There is no magic formula, and you will often feel the same after you started than you did before. You’ll incorrectly assume you did it wrong. But the truth is, you don’t really notice the effects of meditation until hours, or days after it’s over. It makes its appearance known as a state of joy that just comes out of now where.
13. God doesn’t really give you want you want on a silver platter. Most of you unfortunately learned this tough little lesson when you wished for a pair of roller skates, and dutifully blew out every single candle, and still no skates appeared on the table. What God does do is really something much more profound, which does explain why he is God after all, and rarely thinks in human terms like us. He’s much grander than that. He gently, and quietly taps you on the shoulder to move you to a different place – often that open window, and never the door. Here, your dream becomes much less important, as that burning desire is quieted, and you become busier doing some simple, yet mystical, job God has given you. This is a nice place to be – yearning is replaced with satisfaction for the completed task that is right in front of you. Funny though, that dream that you left behind, and you planted all the seeds for, suddenly appears, and you don’t even notice its arrival. Only when you look back at your path do your realize, “Hey, I wanted this all along, and look, it just fell into my lap when I didn’t even expect it.”